Friday, May 29, 2009

Messy and Dressuppy

I'm feeling a little tired and frustrated today. Yesterday Eva woke up with the sniffles. In light of the current health climate around here, her school has asked us not to send children with signs of illness. So she has been home even though she's really not feeling that bad. Also, our helper Claudia got a full time job, which is great for her. She offered to come help me on her lunch break (2 hours long) this week and on her day off going forward. I gratefully accepted. But she didn't show up yesterday or today! I haven't been able to keep up with the dishes, let alone the rest of the house. Our two munchkins seem to have taken everything we own out of its place and left it elsewhere. It's impressive. So, our house is a disaster and my trip-preparation plans are not moving ahead as smoothly as I'd hoped. AND, of course I'm so frustrated with Claudia's no shows not only because of the state of the house, but because a decision to say adios to her would mean coming home from vacation to a dirty messy house. Even if Andrew and I managed to get all the housecleaning done, the amount of dust that would build up...! And my poor ficus tree, which I've somehow managed to keep alive for 6 months! I can't hire someone new a few days before leaving on vacation! So I'm kind of stuck relying on her despite her unreliability. Augh.

In more fun news, yesterday the kids and I got haircuts. They were amazing at the salon. Eva did awesome covering her mouth for every cough and sneeze. While I was getting my cut, they installed themselves at a station and so quietly played and coloured. I have mixed feelings about my hair. I really like it on the one hand. But on the other hand I told him I was growing it and he cut quite a bit off. I have been trying to grow my hair out forever! Eva got the full salon treatment, including wash, dry and straightening. She looked so cute. She wouldn't let me take her photo though. Micah was great as usual getting his hair cut and proudly posed for a shot.


Micah wore that bandaid for two days. He originally insisted he had a boo-boo on his hand, then later installed it on his face. He wore his long sleeved Superman pjs for most of the day yesterday which was cute but I don't know how he stood the heat. Right now he's wearing a pair of Eva's green fuzzy socks. That guy is a little character.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Georgina, Blacktop and the Smell of Poop

Some exciting stuff happening around here this week!

I finally finished the latest and most intensive crochet project. Her name is Georgina. Overall, I am pleased. Though I think I used the right wool and the hook was even a little smaller than called for, her body seems so much looser than the pattern photo! Which is surprising because historical attempts at crochet and knit showed me to work more on the tight side of the gauge spectrum. But I think she still looks pretty good. Eva loves her. I was planning to give her away but it doesn't look like I'll be able to wrestle her from Eva's grip. It was hard enough to get a photo. I am not inclined to make another giraffe anytime soon partly because this one took me so long! The other reason is because I was embarrassed carrying her around when she was just a head and body. Looked more like man parts than giraffe parts, if you know what I mean.

Our Georgina

The pattern photo

Now I'm making a bunny. It seems to be a faster project, and so cute. I also have a lion project waiting in the wings.

The streets in our neighborhood are being blacktopped. Time to break out the roller blades! Ha ha. It looks and feels marvelous out there. Our shoes are a mess from crossing the street while they were working, but otherwise I am so happy!

It took us a few days, but we finally realized that the water on our driveway + poop smell = raw sewage leakage issue. I put out the word to my Circle of Friends buddies and came away with a reference to a wonderful handyman! He was really terrific. He identified that the source of the problem was serious cloggage. Our water supply has quite a bit of sand and whatnot in it, and when that combines with grease and even soap and detergent, it makes a big wad that plugs things up. We were lucky that the drain thingie on the driveway wasn't sealed up so tight it couldn't let the sewage out, actually, because otherwise it would have been coming up our toilets and sinks.

While he was at it, he noticed that we had a leak where the water comes in from the street, and even reported it to the water company on our behalf!! I was so pleased with his work and would have been happy to pay him whatever he asked.

Monday, May 25, 2009

Bursting with Pride

We had year-end parent teacher conferences today and I almost wept. I knew that it was going pretty well but their report indicated far more progress than I had expected!!

Eva has opened up beautifully at school. She is relaxed, interested, curious, and much more assertive. She has become much more patient. She understands a lot of Spanish, and asks someone if she isn't sure. She interacts with her classmates in a combination of English and Spanish. She accepts invitations to work and play together (though she hasn't quite made it to the point where she does the inviting). A really big milestone happened last week. The children take turns bringing snack for the whole class about once a month. The child who has brought the snack is in charge of leading the prayer. Up until now she has declined when it is her turn. Last week, she insisted, and did beautifully. They said the look on her face afterward was almost one of shock and disbelief that she had overcome her trepidation and really done it! Yay Eva!!

They told us she is very intelligent. She concentrates very well and her work is neat and detailed. They were particularly impressed by her drawing of the road to Mazatlan. She has an excellent memory. She is very observant as well, and often already has a good idea of how to use materials she hasn't worked with before, because she has observed other children using them. She is moving along well in math- adding, subtracting and dividing. She is keen to work on writing.

She is struggling a little with differentiating the phonics sounds of English vs Spanish letters. Not surprising.

I asked them for suggestions about how to manage a situation like the one that happened at the Day of the Child event. Eva refused to participate in any of the activities. They suggested respecting her desire to not participate, but not letting that stop us from participating and enjoying. In other words, give her the time and space to find her comfort zone, but don't give her the power to control our activities. I thought that was good advice.

Have I mentioned how much I love this school??? Her teachers obviously care about her. They care about her emotional health and development just as much as her academic development. They respect her individuality, enjoy her, and celebrate her successes. They support her in her struggles. They set boundaries. They challenge her. They provide a safe environment where she can find her own way and achieve at her own pace. They build relationships with the whole family and see themselves as partners with us. They are kind and gentle and loving. These observations are not limited to Eva's teachers. Every member of staff and administration has exhibited these qualities. I think we've stumbled upon a very special place and I am so grateful and blessed.

Micah stayed home with Bertha while we went to the school. He was very excited when she got here, but got very sad and spent a large portion of the time we were gone crying and then watching for me out the front window. Finally, he consented to have some cantaloupe and then asked to watch tv. I guess having a babysitter is more fun when your big sister is there too.

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Weekend Activities

Two very contrasting days for me this weekend. Saturday was WAY too busy for my liking. All good stuff, but too busy. I used to have busy days like that all the time but now I will do whatever I can to avoid it going forward. I like my nice slow pace of life, thank you.

Saturday morning it was Andrew's turn to sleep in so I got up with Micah at 5:30. Got most of the dishes done which felt good. Headed to yoga at 9:00. I just didn't have enough sleep in me so I was useless. Right after yoga I hurried straight to my La Leche League meeting. Fourth in the series of four!! I enjoy going but it's nice to not "have" to go now that my course requirement is completed.

Got home, ate, packed us up and headed out to a birthday party. Swimming, pizza, nice people... Lots of fun. We noticed that the kids have finally reached that age where parties aren't so exhausting because they can fend for themselves a lot more. We actually fit in quite a bit of adult conversation!

Watched and enjoyed Valkyrie and fell into bed exhausted.

Today felt like Mother's Day all over again! I slept until 10am, completely undisturbed, and woke to a clean kitchen and empty house. After a very nice Quiet Time, I spent the afternoon cooking. Figured I should take advantage of the relatively cool weather to use the oven. I was proud to make quite a good lasagna without a recipe. I have come a long way. Then I whipped up some oatmeal raisin chocolate chip cookies. Muy delicioso! Too delicioso. I have authorized Andrew to intervene if I try to eat any more tonight.

Now I'll watch a little tv and work on some crochet.

Tomorrow's kind of an exciting day. Andrew and I are meeting with Eva's teachers in the morning since we will be already gone when they normally have parent-teacher conferences. I look forward to hearing what they have to say. I asked Bertha to come hang out with Micah while we're doing that. Eva will spend the afternoon at school doing a special event. They're renting inflatables and some are waterslides, fun! It will be a long day for her away from me so hopefully she can enjoy the event and not get sad because she misses home.

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Uterus Colouring Pages

I just gave the kids "uterus" colouring pages.

Yep. That's what I said.

I was watching a YouTube video about how the birth control pill is a potential abortifacient and Micah walked up as it was showing a diagram of the uterus. He loudly announces, "I want to colour that monster!!!" Eva immediately wanted to colour one too. Since we're almost out of ink in our stinky printer I drew one for each of them. And they are happily colouring away.

I explained to Eva what it is and a bit about how to works, but I think Micah still thinks it's a monster.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Eva's 2008/09 School Photos

I'm kind of giddy about these: Eva's first school photos! Such a milestone.



(Front to Back, Left to Right)
Santiago, Bernardo, Gabriel, Ana, Antonio, Isabela, Lourdes
Eugenio, Eva, Javier, Pablo, Regina, Carlota, Margarita, Pedro, Lorenzo
Pato, Margot, Sofia, Maria Emilia, Ana Vicky, Beto
Anavilly, Raquel

Sorry it's a bit blurry... Our printer/scanner stinks.

Monday, May 18, 2009

A Different Kind of Weekend

Most of our weekends are spent all together as a family. We get so little time all together during the week that we really appreciate that opportunity to be together while we're all awake. But this weekend was a little different, and it was fun to mix it up.

Andrew went to work for a few hours Saturday morning and I really wanted to go to yoga so I called Bertha to babysit. The kids were thrilled and ran around like mad people when she arrived. They spent the morning jumping on the trampoline and eating. On a whim, we asked Bertha if she wouldn't mind coming back in the evening so we could finally take some belly photos. She said yes! It was fun getting out just the two of us, and recording this special time in a special way.

Sunday morning we met Manuel and Xochi at the park. It was surprisingly and wonderfully cool and the kids played for a very long time. After lunch both kids were invited over to play at Xochi's house. It was weird dropping Micah off... he didn't even look back to say goodbye. He was so excited to be going to play with the girls and looking forward to eating muffins- the last time we were there Ana served muffins and Micah is a huge muffin fan.

Andrew and I almost didn't know what to do with ourselves. We hung around at home just soaking up the altered atmosphere for a while then we headed to the mall to do a couple of errands. We stopped a Haagan Dazs for a small cup of ice cream.... Oh my. I had the Belgian chocolate and it was incredible. I love love loved it!!! Good thing I don't have it available to me at home! Then we got trapped in the mall parking lot and arrived a little late to pick up the kids. They didn't want to leave. They'd had a marvellous time! It was fun shaking up our usual routine.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Delayed Cord Clamping

Watch my Baby Journal blog for a post about cord clamping... in the meantime, check out this really excellent video about it:



If you're interested in knowing more and reading some research about delayed cord clamping, this is a Labor & Delivery Nurse's comprehensive blog post on the topic.

Finally, Some Belly Shots

We have been very negligent about the belly shots this time around. I have to admit, vanity plays a part. Often by the time Andrew is home from work I'm already in my sweatpants, feeling and looking tired, hair askew from the afternoon nap. Not feeling particularly photogenic. We may regret having weekly progress photos, but we definitely have some much better images than we got during the first two pregnancies!

Check out Andrew's Photog Blog to see the bump!

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Some of Eva's Recent Works

I liked this one because of the imagination it shows. It's a windy day. Note the angel who flies upside down. I love the "rollo-crocs" pulling the carriage which allegedly contains a princess.

This one blew me away. She explained that it is the inside of maraca. It's black because it's dark in there, and the spots are the beans that make the noise. Wow.

A map to Mazatlan. Great detail! Gives Andrew's photos a run for their money. ;)

Great Videos

I really enjoyed this two part short film. Quite a few of the Moms and Dads are health care providers themselves. Their experiences and thoughts bring out interesting contrasts between the conventional medicalized birth model and natural childbirth. If you enjoy this film, search "Birth Matters Virginia" in YouTube to see a great selection of birth related videos submitted as part of a contest.

South Coast MidWifery presents a modern account of today's natural child birth. Told by 10 mothers, this short film chronicles their journeys to challenge the conventional hospital birth model to give birth in their own way.

Watch Part 1

Watch Part 2

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Thoughts on Birth

“Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers ~ strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.”

-Barbara Katz Rothman


My friend Melissa recently wrote a great post on Unassisted Childbirth (UC) (click here to see her followup post as well). She discussed her opinion of UC, her thoughts on the open letter Navelgazing Midwife wrote to the Australian birth activist whose baby was stillborn during her UC, and ends realizing that we in the developed world are bickering over type of attendant when there are women and babies dying for lack of a skilled attendant at all. I have been pondering the post and formulating a comment. While I was doing that, I came across something that I thought was very relevant to the discussion. I subsequently decided to write my own post in lieu of a comment on Mel's blog (sorry Mona, I know how fun it is to get comments!)

Birthing Your Baby blog pointed to an excellent Mothering.com article called Breaking Free of Mother-Guilt*. Here are some excerpts:

How, for example, do we discuss the overuse of cesarean delivery without making the one-fifth to one-quarter of us who've had one feel bad, or promote extended breastfeeding without seeming to blame women who haven't been able to do it?

I suggest that the answer lies in achieving a certain perspective. This perspective starts from the premise that each of us does the best she can—given the particulars of our knowledge base, resources, support system, and the circumstances in which we find ourselves (and which we often cannot fully control). No one should ever allow herself to feel judged inadequate for doing the best she could, or the best she knew at the time of choosing. But we must also note that because our knowledge base is one of the keys in our decision-making process, it is absolutely appropriate that every effort be made to disseminate good information as widely as possible—never to blame people for past choices or idiosyncratic situations, but to get good facts out to whoever needs and can use them.


A UC is where a woman gives birth intentionally either alone, or with family/friends, but without a trained birth attendant such as a midwife or OB. I'm not going to say that I agree or disagree with the practice of UC. Each situation is unique, and each woman does the best she can, makes the best decisions she can, given her "knowledge base, resources, support system, and circumstances". I am sure that the Australian woman felt strongly she was doing what was best (and maybe she was- no details have yet been released). Babies and mothers die sometimes during childbirth. It happens in the best hospitals. It happens in assisted home births. And it happens in unassisted births. There are also beautiful outcomes regardless of location or who is in attendance. Not that it is a crap shoot whether you and your baby will live and die. I absolutely think that some birthing environments lead to better outcomes than others (and research supports that). But sometimes even in under the best circumstances things do go wrong. Presumably each woman does her best to minimize the risks she perceives, and others may disagree based on their own perceptions, but we must be careful not to judge. I have made different decisions with regard to each of my births based on my research and experience. I can't beat myself up for decisions I made with my first and second births which I won't repeat for this third birth. I'm in a different place in my journey, knowledge, resources and circumstances.

What about the women who just haven't got the same range of choices many of us do? The women who live in communities where there is no qualified birth attendant? Or women who have access to a birth attendant but tragically no access (for a variety of reasons, including lack of funds or pure apathy on the part of the medical staff) to emergency medical care when it is required? Read a this news story about a young African woman who died recently of postpartum hemorrhage, leaving behind her newborn and four older children. She was unable to get to a medical facility for treatment. Melissa said:

There is a poverty of skilled birth attendants in the world, and here we are in our developed nations quibbling over to choose or not to choose a birth attendant. It makes me think of Marie Antoinette's "They are hungry? Let them eat cake!" We have so much we don't realize how privileged we are. Instead of buzzing around gossiping about the birth of one UCer's baby in Australia, we should be standing up and shouting for the rights of women in countries around the world whose babies and who themselves are dying by the thousands because they don't have the option to choose a skilled birth attendant.

True that we in the developed world often don't recognize and appreciate how privileged we are. True that we should be standing up and shouting for the rights of women who are denied basic medical care. But it doesn't mean that we shouldn't also continue to work locally to educate women and caregivers, and to advocate for change where evidence based protocols are not being followed. To work to improve the outcomes and experiences of mother and baby.

The more I learn about childbirth, the stronger my feelings that God has designed us women beautifully for birthing our babies. Given education, support and safe environment, I believe that the majority of women have the capacity to safely give birth vaginally, joyfully, and to come away feeling strong and empowered. It grieves me that so many women are left believing that their bodies are broken. That some have outright traumatic experiences. Unnecessarily.

Consider the "cascade of interventions" which begins with a procedure not medically indicated and which leads to a real medical emergency in the end.

Example: A woman comes to the hospital in very early labour. She is offered the drug pitocin to speed her labour- with the promise that the baby will be born very soon as a result. She is not informed of the risks of pitocin (which include ruptured uterus, postpartum hemorrhage, and fetal asphyxia. See the link to read more about pitocin. Interestingly, the article states, "...the drug never was approved by the FDA for use in augmenting labor."). The pitocin makes her contractions much stronger, and they become very painful. She is offered an epidural to relieve her pain, but again not informed of the risks of epidural anesthesia (they include fetal malpositioning, instrumental/surgical delivery, difficulty breastfeeding). The epidural slows the contractions. The pitocin is therefore increased. The contractions are much more intense and unrelenting than non-augmented contractions, and the baby doesn't tolerate them well. Fetal heart rate indicates distress. Emergency c-section ensues. Woman is grateful that the medical team 'saved' her baby. But the baby wouldn't have needed saving if labour had not been artificially augmented with the drug pitocin!! Was this woman's body broken? Did she come out feeling strong and capable?

Some may say, well at least the baby is ok, and that's all that matters. Yes, absolutely it matters, but doesn't it also matter that major abdominal surgery could have been avoided? That a normal physiological event was transformed into a medical emergency- with all the risks and harmful side effects that come along with that... unnecessarily? That mother and baby unnecessarily missed out on all of the benefits of a normal vaginal birth? Humans are incredibly adaptable and absolutely can overcome suboptimal conditions. Thank God we can; medical interventions do save the lives of babies and moms who wouldn't otherwise survive. But if we have an opportunity to provide optimal conditions for birth- the birth of the baby AND of the woman as a mother- the burning question for me is why wouldn't we do our best to seek it and to provide it??

The beliefs I stated above are based on my research, circumstances, experiences, understanding and general gut feel. Each woman has her own unique set of circumstances and worldview and I certainly can't and shouldn't force anyone to hold the same beliefs as me. But what I can do is to offer solid information that allows women to make informed decisions about their birthing experience- from the care provider to the location to the interventions accepted. Consumer demand as a result of good information will hopefully bring change where evidence-based care is not being provided. That is why I want to be a Childbirth Educator- knowledge can make such a difference to a life. My challenge is to provide that information in such a way that doesn't minimize anybody's experience or cause guilt or offend.

I realize this post is a bit on the rambly side, but since it is a blog post and not a dissertation I trust you'll forgive me. There are plenty of related topics that beg discussion, and topics included which lack depth. But I think I'll leave it at this for now.

* a related article, Regrets, is also well worth reading

Read this doula's blog entry about a pitocin induced labour she attended. The birth stories in the comments are also very interesting.

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Nicholas' Gift, Olivia's Hope

In July 2007 a family from our church in Winnipeg had twins. A few months later, Nicholas was diagnosed with a fatal disorder, and passed away when he was only 3 months old. A couple of weeks later his twin sister Olivia was diagnosed with the same disorder, and was five and a half months old when she passed away as well.

Click here to listen to the radio interview they did about their story in support of the Winnipeg Children's Hospital radiothon.

It breaks my heart whenever I think about it. One of the radio hosts said that it is "the saddest story I've ever heard". In reflection about that comment, Lisa blogged:

Our story is not a sad one. It is one of victory. And of peace. And hope. We have gone through bitter loss and have emerged whole and strong. We have not been destroyed.

Their faith journey through tragic loss is incredibly inspiring. God has truly seen them through and been a faithful source of strength and comfort. Read more about their journey on Lisa's blog.

Friday, May 8, 2009

The Latest Crochet Project

I merged my current obsessions and tried crocheting a wool diaper cover. I knew I'd make some mistakes first time around so I first made one using some old wool I had. Which made for an outcome which, I am first to admit, is not aesthetically pleasing. Additionally, the wool is much heavier than the wool I bought for the real thing...


... which means that even though I followed the pattern for the size small, the final product is HUGE. Micah was kind enough to model to give perspective.



I am so glad I made these first. I learned a lot! I am interested to see how my next pair turn out and if they will actually fit a real baby. I'm not holding my breath that they will work overly well, since the closest I could come to 100% wool yarn was a 50/50 blend with acrylic. I'm pretty sure that acrylic doesn't have the amazing properties of wool which make it such a great diaper cover material.

Wool diaper covers are highly absorbent and can hold up to 30% of their weight in liquids without feeling damp, are breathable and can help prevent diaper rash. Another advantage of wool is that it has antibacterial properties and is easy to care for.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

So Ends the Surprise Vacation

Andrew heads back to work tomorrow. It has been awesome having him home with us. Today he cooked up some yummy stew. My obsession moved from crochet back to cloth diapers. I have almost got my purchase strategy nailed down. Claudia dug us out from under the toys and clothing. The kids did some more swimming and watched Tarzan.

I just realized I didn't post some photos from a few days ago. Micah dumped pencil shavings on the rug so I asked the kids to get the vacuum cleaner. To my surprise, not only did they GET it, they also plugged it in and actually did the vacuuming!


Micah's undies are not white. They are inside out. Often if we point out that his clothing is inside out and/or backwards, he will flat out deny it. I guess he thought they went better with his backpack that way.

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Crocheting Up a Storm


I'm a crocheting maniac! I finished the monster today and it's a huge hit. By extension, the owl has gained popularity as well. I was so happy with how the monster turned out and with the kids' reaction that I am making another one. Eventually I want to make the giraffe, which is super duper cute. I am going to have to buy some more wool- all of the bits and pieces I have been using are kind of in boy colours...

Saturday, May 2, 2009

Adjusted Owl

I fixed his eyes and wings. Nobody around here is impressed by my creation except for me... here's hoping that Wee3 will appreciate it!


This one is next.

Friday, May 1, 2009

Amigurumi Success!!

My first attempt at crocheting an Amigurumi animal was a miserable failure. Eva insisted that black yarn was the way to go (note to beginners: it is hard to see what you are doing when you are using black yarn and working primarily by lamplight) and I chose an octopus (note to beginners: avoid projects that require rounds until you figure out what you are doing). Also I think it was just the wrong type of wool for this type of project.

This is what the octopus was supposed to look like:

This is what my octopus looked like. After I made one tentacle I called it quits. Obviously there was no salvaging this project.


So I chose something a little more straightforward:

And this is how it turned out! I'm pretty pleased with myself. Though now that I look at it (I was working from memory when I sewed on the parts) I should have sewn the wings and eyes on differently. Maybe I'll redo that. But for now I'm just happy I got the crocheting right!!



Thanks to Melissa for the inspiration, and to LionBrand for the free pattern and crochet instructions.

Another Yummy Recipe

Andrew LOVED this. He said it "screams more". The kids were already in bed so I don't know if they will like it. But it'll make it again soon so they'll get a chance to give it a try.

I had to use spinach because Andrew couldn't find bok choy at the store. I wonder if it will be even better with all the right ingredients?!

Nutty Bok Choy Salad

dressing-
3 tbsp balsamic vinegar
3 tbsp soy sauce
2 tbsp honey
2 tbsp peanut butter

salad
5-6 cups thinly sliced bok choy
1 thinly spiced red pepper
2 thinly sliced green onion
1 pkg ichiban noodles- (roasted 8-10 min 350)
1/2 cup roasted peanuts